Tuesday, November 29, 2011

What if “we” were “The Help”?

After the movie, “The Help” ended, I sat in my seat and wondered how different would things be if white people were the domestic servants and workers on the plantations and blacks were the affluent well to do?
You really have to walk in someone else’s shoes (or skin in this case) to fully understand how they see the world.  You probably wouldn’t always like the view.
It’s hard to believe that people were treated so poorly in our lifetime.  We’ve made progress but still have a long way to go.  Just because there are laws on the books, that doesn’t necessarily translate into equality and justice.   People still speed, people still steal and people still discriminate.
What can we do?  We can help by joining our company’s employee resource groups (ERG’s).  Just because we may not be part of an underrepresented group doesn’t mean we can’t be involved.
We can reach out to those who have different characteristics and learn to understand and celebrate those differences.
The movie made me think of “white privilege” which Peggy McIntosh and Tim Wise write extensively about.  Peggy McIntosh said the following,

“Thinking through unacknowledged male privilege as a phenomenon, I realized that, since hierarchies in our society are interlocking, there was most likely a phenomenon of while privilege that was similarly denied and protected.

As a white person, I realized I had been taught about racism as something that puts others at a disadvantage, but had been taught not to see one of its corollary aspects, white privilege, which puts me at an advantage.

I think whites are carefully taught not to recognize white privilege, as males are taught not to recognize male privilege. So I have begun in an untutored way to ask what it is like to have white privilege.

I have come to see white privilege as an invisible package of unearned assets that I can count on cashing in each day, but about which I was "meant" to remain oblivious. White privilege is like an invisible weightless knapsack of special provisions, maps, passports, codebooks, visas, clothes, tools , and blank checks.”

Here are the first ten instances of white privilege that she lists in “White Privilege - Unpacking the Invisible Knapsack”

1. I can if I wish arrange to be in the company of people of my race most of the time.

2. I can avoid spending time with people whom I was trained to mistrust and who have learned to mistrust my kind or me.

3. If I should need to move, I can be pretty sure of renting or purchasing housing in an area which I can afford and in which I would want to live.

4. I can be pretty sure that my neighbors in such a location will be neutral or pleasant to me.

5. I can go shopping alone most of the time, pretty well assured that I will not be followed or harassed.

6. I can turn on the television or open to the front page of the paper and see people of my race widely represented.

7. When I am told about our national heritage or about "civilization," I am shown that people of my color made it what it is.

8. I can be sure that my children will be given curricular materials that testify to the existence of their race.

9. If I want to, I can be pretty sure of finding a publisher for this piece on white privilege.

10. I can be pretty sure of having my voice heard in a group in which I am the only member of my race.

The old American Express commercial said “Membership has its privileges”.  Shouldn’t this be an open group?

This way we can all help each other.

Please feel free to comment.

Sunday, November 6, 2011

A white male’s view from the back of the bus of diversity & inclusion.

This is how Webster’s defines diversity: the condition of having or being composed of differing elements : variety; especially : the inclusion of different types of people (as people of different races or cultures) in a group or organization - programs intended to promote diversity in schools.
When it comes to the bus of diversity and inclusion, you’re either on it or under it.  I guess it’s like being pregnant, it’s not something you can do half way.
If you’re a follower of diversity – that makes you a diversciple
What would diversity and inclusion look like if white men didn’t exist?
We live in a world where racism occurs daily, so when a minority cries racism when it doesn't exist, it causes race relations to take a step backwards. 

A commute on the Orange Line into Boston each morning is like a box of crayola crayons.  A wonderful blend of closely standing colors.  Now if we only get them to leave the doors open a little longer!   “Watch the closing doors, there’s another service train directly behind us.”  Ugh!
Larry Bird will always be better than Lebron James.
Before we stuff our faces with turkey, sweet potato pie, stuffing and cranberry sauce this Thanksgiving and collapse onto the couch to watch football, please take a moment to think about our Native American friends who suffered centuries ago and still do today.
To the president of Netflix – I’m so glad you’re not running my company.  And no, I’m not coming back!
If any of your children were LGBT could you really love them any less?  Or not support them 100%? 
Please don’t confuse being poor with being incapable.  It’s all about opportunity.
Inspiration is Matt Stutzman.  He is an aspiring Olympic archer.  He was also born without arms.
Talk about having influence.  Xernona Clayton inspired a Grand Dragon of the Klu Klux Klan to denounce and quit his hateful organization and was going to have him meet with Martin Luther King Jr. before his unfortunate assassination.
What if Dr. Conrad Murray were white?
I’m honored and proud to call Lovell Dyett, Jake Kennedy, Colette Phillips and Sara Ting friends.  They are true leaders of diversity and Boston is fortunate to have them!
Working mothers – you are simply amazing!    Single working moms – all I can say is wow!
Why do kids, especially black kids insist on using the ‘N’ word?
Pants on the ground, pants on the ground, looking like a fool with your pants on the ground.  Please pull up your pants!
Cross cultural friendships and mentoring.    Learn about/from people who are different and you’ll quickly realize how much you have in common.  It’s more about similarities than differences.
Step out of your comfort zone.  It’s like jogging in a pool.  You do it long enough that when you step out of the pool, you walk stronger and easier.
I just completed a class called ‘White People Challenging Racism’ at the Cambridge Center for Adult Education.   I highly recommend it.
In order for Diversity & Inclusion to move forward, companies and families have to have uncomfortable but open and critical conversations.
Welfare, drugs, booze, gambling, laziness and a sense of entitlement is not a recipe for success.
NBA acts of courage – Rick Welts, the newly hired President & COO of the Golden State Warriors announcement that he is gay.   Jerry West, Hall of Famer and former Laker great who just became a consultant with the Warriors, and his revelation of his lifetime battle with depression.
Lack of courage – greedy NBA players and owners.  Please give us OUR game back!
I’m very proud that my daughters have been educated in Catholic schools. I’m not proud of the pedophile protectors in the Catholic Church.  Hope you enjoy your birthday Cardinal Law!
Occupy NStar and National Grid anyone?
As we depart, we have a special guest who would like to get on the bus of diversity & inclusion.  Of course, Ms. Parks, you may sit wherever you wish.  Please fasten your seatbelt.
Thanks for letting me share some of my thoughts.  I’m flawed and far from perfect but I care.
I welcome your feedback.